My son was always a shy child. I remember taking him to visit his friends where he would sit stuck with me, holding on to my arm tightly. My friends advised me to take him out more often, so that he could meet new people and overcome this supposed shyness. But alas! It never really happened. Shyness in preschoolers is not difficult to understand. Especially children coming from nuclear families (like mine).
We need to understand that being an introvert or reserved is not the concern here. But being shy can deprive our children from gaining new experiences and following their heart. A question, does feeling shy make you a wee bit uncomfortable? I am certain the answer will be in the affirmative. Similar emotions are experienced by our child, too. Consequently, quite a few good learning opportunities are lost. For e.g. a child who would love to learn soccer would shy away from it, due to his awkwardness to interact with a group. How unfair is that!
As parents, it is our moral responsibility to help our child overcome traits that can prove to be detrimental to his progress. We need to identify the reasons for this ‘shy’ behaviour. Is it a genetic trait or is it a learned response? The good news is that in both these situations, behaviour can be modified. Overly reserved behaviour can also be a passing phase, like in preschoolers, where the novelty of every situation makes them slightly withdrawn. A few tell tale signs of a shy child:
We need to be in sync with our child’s needs and help her overcome this shyness. A few pointers:
Goodbye shyness ☺
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