Times have changed and so has the role of fathers. In traditional societies, the father was primarily a purveyor of food and other necessities of life. Fathers nowadays have broken that stereotype and are increasingly involved in nurturing and playing an active role in the lives of their children. Studies have shown that children whose dads are active parent in their upbringing are better in cognitive, language, and social skills.
Children are great imitators. Their interaction pattern with their fathers impacts their future behavioral patterns. For example, girls who have had a wonderful experience with their old man tend to look for similar characteristics in their spouse. Boys, on the other hand, follow their father's footsteps. If their father was a loving husband and a caring dad, they too will try and fit in his shoes.
The job of a father has changed over the years. So here is a list which shows what kids need most in a dad:
- Someone who shows his love for them: “Father” and “strength” are synonymous for children. But do strong people have no emotion? Of course, they have. Yet fathers generally inhibit display of their emotions. Don't hesitate to give a little pat on the shoulder, a tight hug, or a kiss on your kid's forehead; these gestures of love will go a long way in forging strong bonds of kinship between you and your child.
- Someone who will spend time with them: More than the money, it is your time that your little one longs for. As it is rightly said, “To be in your child’s memories tomorrow, you have to be in their lives today.” My personal favorite memory of my childhood are the ones I spent with my dad in the park playing games or visiting places. Give your child memories to cherish for life.
- Someone who can see the world through a child’s eyes: We as grown ups tend to overlook few things that might seem to grasp a child’s attention. Kids often want their parents, especially dads, to understand their fears, inhibitions, interests, likings, and thought process. It is natural for a child to believe that his/her father is unable to understand them. But it is the duty of the father to create an amenable environment conducive for candid interactions.
All your kid needs is a little help, a little hope, and someone who believes in them. Remember you are their friend, mentor, and a superhero.